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How nesting a bird in her hair for 3 months in Ghana helped a British author to overcome Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

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An author has revealed to the DailyMail how caring for a helpless baby bird and letting him nest in her hair for 84 days helped her to manage her life-long OCD. 

Hannah Bourne-Taylor, a former model and photographer from London, had lived with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder her whole life but it spiraled out of control when she moved to Accra, Ghana in her 20s with her husband in 2013. 

Triggered by the thought of anything suffering, she became obsessed with the thought of insects drowning in her swimming pool, spending hours each night trying to rescue them.

Hannah had been struggling like this for five years when she came across a bronze-winged mannikin finchfinch who had fallen out of his nest and had been abandoned by the rest of his flock. She decided to rescue him, letting the bird sleep in her hand and her hair.

The finch would tuck himself under a lock of Hannah’s hair, and would use his beak to separate individual strands to form a nest, before settling himself in the middle of it. 

She cared for the bird for 84 days, before releasing him back into the wild and says the experience taught her how to embrace every moment, while focusing on the tiny bird gave her no time to carry out her compulsions. 

Since then, Hannah and her husband have rescued several animals, including more finches and three crows named Constance, Toucan and Florence, and several pangolins. 

Here, Hannah, whose book Fledgling has been released this week, recalls how caring for animals transformed her mental health. 

When I was in my twenties, I left my life in central London and moved to Ghana with my husband for his work. 

Jobless, friendless and with nothing to do, I spent my days alone. Isolation fuelled my OCD like gasoline.

When I’m suffering myself, from stress or unhappiness, my OCD offers a dysfunctional coping mechanism, refocusing my mind on preventing any suffering around me as though, by helping something else, my own suffering will reduce.

When I was younger, I would turn everything the right way up – tins of beans, books, shoes. 

It wasn’t to tidy them but to stop them from being upside down because if I was upside down, I would eventually die so I applied this warped logic to everything.

Shoelaces had to be carefully extracted from underneath shoes otherwise they would be trapped; teddy bears had to have their heads outside of the bedding otherwise they would suffocate.

Gates had to be shut otherwise they would run out of energy holding themselves up, swinging on their hinges. I lived with OCD throughout my childhood without knowing that it was a disorder, without knowing that other people suffered from it too. 

By my late teens I had grown out of the more illogical compulsions and stopped rescuing shoelaces. 

Instead, my OCD focused on lights and fans being left on in empty rooms, of taps running, of washing machine’s blinking at the end of their cycles, desperately wanting to turn them off. 

Facts give my OCD oxygen: the annual quota of electricity last year was used up by July in 2021 and with thousands of lights left on carelessly, these truths merge with my intrusive thoughts, blazing through my mind.

Living in Ghana without a purpose, weakened my mind to the onslaught of OCD. After a year of living in the capital city, we moved to house surrounded by an overgrown garden. 

Amongst the palm trees there was a swimming pool. It looked like heaven and it was until I noticed the insects drowning in the water, unable to get out. Then it was hell. 

My OCD latched on to my natural instincts to save the insects and galvanised this desire so that it was an obsession. 

I felt compelled to save every single insect, prioritising checking the pool, scooping hundreds out of the water, making rafts, patrolling like a crazed lifeguard, unable to leave the pool for any decent amount of time. 

When I started waking up at night to check the pool, my husband got suspicious. I had never told a single person or been officially diagnosed with OCD because I didn’t dare admit that I was, at least partially, mad. 

I kept my strange secret, intending to carry it to my grave but when my husband started questioning me, I knew he would find out. 

The idea of him accusing me before I admitted it spurred me to tell him. Through floods of tears, I confessed. 

‘I’ve got OCD. And not in a casual way people often joke about it but the sort that beats up my mind,’ I said, wincing, unable to look him in the eye, convinced he was going to leave me. 

His reaction was a complete surprise. He comforted me, reassured me, invited me to talk about it. I felt a tangible relief, my OCD diluted in the same way as a nightmare doesn’t seem so scary in the morning.

Shortly after I shared my secret, we moved to rural Ghana. On the edge of the grasslands in the middle of nowhere I worried that being so remote would lead to the OCD overrunning my mind. 

But then a tiny wild bird changed my life, not only giving me purpose but altering my perspective on everything. 

I found a fledgling finch fallen from his nest after a huge storm. Knowing he would die if I left him, I took the bird back to the house and unwittingly began an intense three-month period of raising him. 

Utterly dependent on me, we were inseparable. The finch slept in my hand and made nests out of my hair, curling the waist length strands up before falling asleep, content, safe. 

When he was older, we spent every day following his flock so one day he could rejoin his wild family. 

After 84 days of living with a feathered friend on my body every waking hour, the vast differences between me and him shrunk so there were none. 

Like me he needed security and reassurance and craved affection and although smaller than a wood mouse, his personality lit up the room. He taught me how to embrace every moment. 

I had no time to engage in my OCD by carrying out compulsions so when intrusive thoughts started to flood my mind about lights or fans being on, I could do nothing about them. 

I had to look after the bird, keep him safe. I had to feed him otherwise he would perch on my finger and throw his head back, whipping his wings out, calling his shrill hunger call like a matador having a tantrum.

I had to comfort him, stroking the side of his tiny face until his head lolled at bedtime, until he was too sleepy to protest, until he stopped nudging me to stroke him more. 

I put my obsessive energy into a life that really needed me. I got used to dismissing the intrusive thoughts, gradually recognising that the less I carried out the compulsions, the less power the obsessions had over me. 

By not responding to my OCD, a space was made between me and the disorder, expanding little by little so the intrusive thoughts became quieter, less intense. 

This practice is very similar to one of the treatments for OCD known as Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). While there is no full cure, there are other treatments too – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and medication as well as other forms of therapy.

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Viola Davis receives Women In Motion Award at Cannes Film Festival

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Viola Davis receives Women In Motion Award at Cannes Film Festival

In her honor, Kering and the Cannes Film Festival were pleased to welcome Isabelle Huppert, Vincent Lindon, Valeria Golino, Paolo Sorrentino, Audrey Diwan, Lola Quivoron and Raymond Depardon on the occasion of the official dinner of the 8th edition of Women In Motion.

The official dinner of Women In Motion, Kering’s program to highlight the invaluable contribution of women to the 7th art, took place Sunday, May 22, 2022, in Place de la Castre in the heights of Cannes, around a menu conceived by the starred chef of the Gucci Osteria, Karime Lopez.

On this occasion, François-Henri Pinault, Chairman and CEO of Kering and Thierry Frémaux, General Delegate of the Festival de Cannes, presented the eighth Women In Motion Award to American actress and producer Viola Davis, who delivered a powerful speech, in the presence of the members of the Festival Jury. The Young Talent Award was given to Swedish director Ninja Thyberg.

Among the guests were actresses and actors Isabelle Huppert, Vincent Lindon, Rebecca Hall, Letitia Wright, Julie Gayet, Edgar Ramirez, Noomi Rapace, Alba Rohrwacher, Paul Mescal, Benoît Magimel, Rossy de Palma, Clotilde Courau, Elodie Bouchez, Déborah François, Riz Ahmed, Romain Brau, Anthony Sonigo, Pierre Deladonchamps as well as comedian Stéphane de Groodt. The cast of Novembre by Cédric Jimenez, including Sandrine Kiberlain, Jean Dujardin, Anaïs Demoustier, Lyna Khoudri et Sami Outalbali were also present.

Kering and the Festival de Cannes were also pleased to welcome directors Audrey Diwan, Paolo Sorrentino, Mélanie Laurent, Joachim Trier, Valeria Golino, Asghar Farhadi, Maïwenn, Debra Granik, Lola Quivoron, Chie Hayakawa, Monia Chokri, Aïssa Maïga, Costa Gavras, Claudine Nougaret, Jeff Nichols, Audrey Dana and the winner of the 2021 Young Talent Award, Shannon Murphy. Film industry professionals Julius Tennon, Melita Toscan Du Plantier, Jeremy Thomas, Rosalie Varda, Ronald Chammah were also present.

The great French photographer and documentary filmmaker Raymond Depardon, musicians Carla Bruni, Clara Luciani and Benjamin Biolay, models Adriana Lima, Anja Rubik, Eva Herzigova, as well as and influencers Aha & Lolo and Nour Arida also attended this exceptional moment.

Download the visuals of the dinner: HERE

About Women In Motion

Kering’s commitment to women is at the heart of the Group’s priorities and extends, through Women In Motion, to the field of arts and culture, where gender inequalities are still glaring, even though creation is one of the most powerful vectors for change.

In 2015, Kering launched Women In Motion at the Festival de Cannes with the ambition of highlighting women in cinema, both in front of and behind the camera. The program has since expanded in a major way to photography, but also to art, design, choreography and music. Through its Awards, the program recognizes inspirational figures and young female talent, while its Talks provide an opportunity for leading personalities to share their views on the representation of women in their profession.

For the past eight years, Women In Motion has been a platform of choice that contributes to changing mind sets and thinking on the place of women – and the recognition they receive – in the arts and culture.

About Kering

A global Luxury group, Kering manages the development of a series of renowned Houses in Fashion, Leather Goods, Jewelry: Gucci, Saint Laurent, Bottega Veneta, Balenciaga, Alexander McQueen, Brioni, Boucheron, Pomellato, DoDo, Qeelin, as well as Kering Eyewear. By placing creativity at the heart of its strategy, Kering enables its Houses to set new limits in terms of their creative expression while crafting tomorrow’s Luxury in a sustainable and responsible way. We capture these beliefs in our signature: “Empowering Imagination”.

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Photos: Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker marry in lavish Italian ceremony

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Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker have got married – again. (more…)

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South African Film, ‘Two Hues’ selected for Cannes NEXT

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South African filmmaker and actor, Weaam Williams will pitch her up-coming feature film, Two Hues at NEXT, Marche du Film, Festival De Cannes.

 

The screenplay is funded by the National Film and Video Foundation of South Africa, and has been selected to participate at Marche du Film with the Swiss tech company, largo.ai.

 

Two Hues is a high concept, fiction feature film about a woman who suffers from bi-polar disorder and is a silent victim of sexual assault. The title refers to her two opposite moods portrayed via colour, red and blue.

 

The proof of concept short film, garnered several awards on the 2021 festival circuit, including Best Women Empowerment Film at Berlin Short Film Festival and Best Lead Actress at West Europe International Film Festival.

 

Williams will pitch the project, as a part of the largo NEXT selection, to an audience of financiers, studio representatives and distributors on the 20th May 2022 at The Main Stage, Riviera – Festival De Canes.

 

“I feel that the return of film festivals will encourage a return to the cinema, and this is a very exciting prospect after the hard lock-down. I am very happy to participate at Marche du Film this year, and will promote Two Hues and the rest of the Tribal Alchemy catalogue, as well as meet with co-producers interested in working in South Africa,” expresses Williams.

 

South African producer, Kethiwe Ngcobo, from Fuzebox Entertainment, is a co-producer on this project. She has many years of experience as the Head of Drama at the South African national broadcaster, as well as three feature films under her belt.

 

 

“I am privileged to be working with Weaam, her creativity extends to writing, acting and directing. I am very happy to be a part of the project as Weaam is such a committed filmmaker,” says co-producer Kethiwe Ngcobo.

 

Two Hues feature film script is complete and has generated impressive box office statistics, in proportion to its budget, country of origin and cast. Weaam is set to continue to play the lead for the feature film, however, the director for the project is to be confirmed.

Investment company “i-cubed capital” is the first company to support the production of what is forecasted to be a box-office success. 

“We are pleased and honoured to participate as investors in Two Hues. Our investment in Two Hues highlights our support for local film production, gender equality, anti-racism and anti-violence. I-cubed Consulting believes that the film once completed and screened will have a positive social impact on society,” says Ismail Kajee, Founding Partner at i-Cubed Capital. 

 

Two Hues is currently in development, and Tribal Alchemy Productions will continue fund-raising for the next 12 months.

 

The indie short was produced with a shoe-string budget and managed to receive a few accolades and good audience interaction across the world.

 

“The feature is more ambitious and I am optimistic about the impact it will have on the South African film landscape and tech space, as well as its universal message against gender based violence and exclusion of cultural minorities,” says Williams.

 

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Grammy-Winning Artist Leon Thomas Reveals New Single & Music Video “X-Rated”

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Entering what promises to be a massive era, GRAMMY® Award-winning singer, songwriter, and producer Leon Thomas unveils a new single and music video entitled “X-Rated” [feat. Benny The Butcher] today. Listen to it HERE, and watch the music video HERE.

 

The single marks Leon’s debut music under multiplatinum artist, singer, songwriter, producer Ty Dolla $ign’s newly inked EZMNY Records, a joint label venture with Motown Records. Ty shares his excitement, stating, “Leon’s talent was just a higher level from every other singer or producer that I was hearing, and the fact that he was doing everything himself from playing bass to working Logic and Pro Tools. From the first song I heard, I knew he was one of them ones.”

 

On Leon’s “X-Rated” track, a glitchy beat holds down the groove beneath warbling loops, building a layered soundscape evocative of nineties hip-hop. His vocals glide over this backdrop as he celebrates female sexual freedom in the verses before a chantable chorus, “X-Rated girl, if these walls could talk.” Meanwhile, Griselda spitter Benny The Butcher pulls up with a fiery feature. The strikingly cinematic visual, which Thomas directed, captures these vibes on-screen and includes a cameo appearance from Ty Dolla $ign.

 

Speaking on the inspiration behind the song, Leon shares, “X-Rated is an ode to my love of “Boom Bap” and early 90’s instrumentals. Benny The Butcher brought authentic bars and helped further the theme of this record.”

 

A prolific songwriter and producer, Leon’s unique sound and writing wizardry can be found up and down the Billboard charts. He’s contributed to anthems for everyone from Toni Braxton and Babyface –winning a Grammy for his writing credits on the duo’s 2014 joint album Love, Marriage & Divorce—to Post Malone, Ariana Grande, Chris Brown, Kehlani, J. Cole, Rick Ross, Ella Mai, and more. As a co-writer and co-producer, he recently powered “Pipe Down,” “Love All” [feat. JAY-Z], and “In the Bible” [feat. Lil Durk & Giveon] from Drake’s global chart-topping Certified Lover Boy album.

 

Also, a true vocalist and artist in his own right, Leon unveiled his debut EP Genesis in 2018, which garnered tens of millions of streams and earned him critical acclaim. He continues to be a musical force of nature with the release of “X-Rated” and a highly anticipated project due out soon. Be on the lookout for more from Leon!

From writing and producing on #1 albums with chart-breaking artists to starring on hit television series, GRAMMY® Award-winning singer, songwriter, producer, and actor Leon Thomas has become one of the most watched multi-hyphenate talents in the entertainment industry today. He has written and produced with the likes of Post Malone, Ariana Grande, Kehlani, J. Cole, Rick Ross, and more, and won a Grammy for writing credits on Babyface and Toni Braxton’s 2014 joint album Love, Marriage & Divorce. In 2021, Leon found himself contributing his writing and production skills to Drake’s global chart-topping album Certified Lover Boy on “Pipe Down,” “Love All” feat. JAY-Z, and “In the Bible” feat. Lil Durk and Giveon. Born in Brooklyn and raised by his vocalist mother, opera-singing grandfather, and stepfather who played guitar for B.B. King, Thomas’ musical career began early. He appeared as Young Simba on Broadway’s The Lion King at 10 years old and began working with Nickelodeon at 13, voicing The Backyardigans character Tyrone and starring in Victorious for the show’s entire run. In 2018, Leon released his debut EP Genesis to critical acclaim. He continues to expand his artistry and venture into a new era of music under Ty Dolla $ign’s EZMNY Records and Motown Records, with the release of “X-Rated” feat. Benny The Butcher and a full project due out soon.

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Quavo x Takeoff Present New Single & Music Video “Hotel Lobby”

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Over the years, Quavo and Takeoff have gone wild once or twice. However, they go wilder than ever on their new single and music video “Hotel Lobby”—available today via Quality Control Music Group/Motown Records.  Quavo and Takeoff reveal a woozy and wobbly banger on a whole different level..

 

Listen to “Hotel Lobby” HERE and watch the music video for “Hotel Lobby” HERE.

 

The airy cinematic production and ominous beat set the tone as Quavo and Takeoff trade one intoxicating bar after another. Co-directed by Keemotion and Quavo, the music video serves as an insane homage to the cult classic Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas directed by Terry Gilliam and co-starring Johnny Depp and Benicio Del Toro. In the clip, Quavo and Takeoff assume the roles of Raoul Duke and Dr. Gonzo cruising through the desert with a “mobile pharmacy” before pulling up to a Las Vegas hotel and barely passing the doors to check in. All kinds of psychedelic, tripped-out trap madness follows as they deliver the South’s first proper hip-hop homage to the late Hunter S. Thompson. It’s unlike anything either of these two multiplatinum GRAMMY® Award-nominated superstars have done either solo or as part of Migos!

 

It also paves the way for more music to come.

 

Takeoff recently dropped off “Crypto” with Rich The Kid. It has already amassed over 6.5 million Spotify streams and 4.7 million YouTube views on the music video. Receiving critical acclaim, HYPEBEAST proclaimed, “the new single sees the Migos rapper embrace his love for cryptocurrency and the fortune that it has brought him.”

 

Meanwhile, Quavo served up the intense “Shooters Inside My Crib.” It posted up 6 million Spotify streams and 6.6 million YouTube views on the music video. Touted among the “Soundsystem 50,” High Snobiety observed, “Quavo skates over the Ayo-B-produced beat effortlessly teasing us about an upcoming project.” REVOLT added, “‘Shooters Inside My Crib’ sees the North Atlanta star harmonizing about past struggles and current successes.” Sports Illustrated summed it up best as “an absolute banger.” Not to mention, he joined NBA2K22 as a playable character and will star in a new action thriller Takeover.

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Stunna 4 Vegas Drops New Album “Rae Rae’s Son”

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After releasing a barrage of fiery singles, burgeoning star Stunna 4 Vegas’ (Billion Dollar Baby Entertainment / Interscope Records) unveils his blistering new album Rae Rae’s Son. The 12-track effort is a slam-dunk for Stunna enthusiasts who crave his high-octane energy and robust swagger. Fans who reveled at Stunna’s previous records “BMF,” Ice Wear Vezzo, and “Pay Me To Speak” will love the album’s latest record, “Sad Song,” featuring Spinnabenz. Listen HERE.
To celebrate the release of his new album, Stunna will perform three concerts including performances in Charlotte (May 21), Dallas (May 29) and Billings (June 9). YRB Teez and SSG Splurge will accompany the Billion Dollar Baby star on his trek. Fans can purchase tickets HERE.
Since he joined Billion Dollar Baby and Interscope in 2019, Stunna 4 Vegas has emerged into one of the roster’s most promising talents, with over 816 million streams in the U.S. alone. His frenetic energy and ear for top-tier street anthems launched the run of success that began with his Big 4X mixtape release that cracked the top 50 on the Billboard 200 albums chart. Results only improved with the January 2020 release of his debut album, Rich Youngin, which shot into the top 30 on the Billboard 200 albums chart and the top 20 of the Rap Albums list on the heels of hits such as “DO DAT,” featuring DaBaby and Lil Baby and “Up the Smoke” with Offset. His credentials only grew with a heavy touring lineup in 2021, including featured performer slots at Rolling Loud, Made in America, and OVO Fest and headlining his national tour.
 
Rae Rae’s Son Track List
  1. Rae Rae’s Intro
  2. The One
  3. Pay Me To Speak
  4. BMF ft. Ice Wear Vezzo
  5. Going For Nun
  6. Suspect
  7. Activated
  8. Sticks
  9. Fye ft. YRB Tezz
  10. Skurrt
  11. Sad Song ft. Spinnabenz
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