How to use anal sex toys: a beginner’s guide

You might already be using a number of different sex toys in the bedroom, but have you tried using anal sex toys to spice up your sex life? Anal sex toys can be used to enhance your pleasure no matter your gender or sexuality – if you have a butt, you can enjoy them!

Benefits of using anal sex toys:

• Anal orgasms can be super powerful
• You can add fun and variety into the bedroom with a partner
• You can enhance your vaginal and clitoral orgasms
• You can experiment with prostate stimulation for enhanced sensations
• You will enhance your bond with your partner, as anal play is incredibly intimate
• You can take advantage of lots of different anal sex toys and anal stimulators on the market

Best anal sex toys for couples

If you’re looking to experiment with some anal play with a partner, there are a number of different anal sex stimulators which are optimal for use as a couple:

Butt Plugs

According to www.penisplug.co.uk, one of the best anal sex toys for beginners is a butt plug, as you can can start small and work your way up to larger sizes as you become more comfortable. Butt plugs can be inserted during penetrative sex, oral or foreplay to enhance the experience and create waves of intense, blended pleasure. When used during penetrative sex, butt plugs can benefit both parties: the pressure from the butt plug in the anus can actually narrow the width of the vaginal canal, enhancing the sensations for both partners!

Strap-on dildos

If you’re in a hetereosexual couple and have always fantasized about double penetration, you can bring this fantasy to life with a strap-on dildo. Strap-on dildos available on https://www.fantasydildoes.co.uk/ can be attached to the penis area with a harness, allowing you to double up on the fun with your partner!

Prostate Massagers
If you have a penis and you’re looking to upgrade your orgasms, using an anal prostate massager is the way to do it. Simply insert the prostate massager whilst your partner stimulates your penis and balls to enjoy intense, blended pleasure. Be careful, as these clever massagers can be intense and quickly bring you to orgasm, especially if you’re a newbie!

Anal hooks

This anal sex toy is not for beginners! If you already love indulging in some bdsm fun in the bedroom with your partner, you can incorporate some anal stimulation into your play with an anal hook! An anal hook is technically considered a piece of bondage equipment, so ideal for couples who are already familiar with bdsm tube, bondage and anal.

How to use anal sex toys as a couple

Introducing anal sex toys into the bedroom can be daunting, but if both partners relax and remain attentive to each other’s needs, each party should be able to enjoy the maximum pleasure and hopefully both reach orgasm. As an added bonus, you will probably feel closer and more intimate with your partner afterwards.

How to use anal sex toys as a couple for the safest and sexiest backdoor adventures:

Lube up

Unlike the vagina, the anus does not have an in-built natural lubricant. For easy penetration, you’ll need to invest in some high quality lube to help things run smoothly. Whilst a silicone based lube is better for skin-to-skin anal play, it is not optimal for use with sex toys as it can damage the materials: a high-quality water-based lube should do the trick instead.

Be patient and relax

Sometimes it will feel like the anus just doesn’t want to cooperate! Don’t forget that the interior anal sphincter is a muscle, so it can take a bit of time to help it relax and dilate correctly for penetration. If at any point penetration starts to become painful, stop immediately and go slower. If it continues to hurt even with gentle simulation, stop completely and try a smaller toy next time.

Listen to your partner

Anal stimulation can sometimes feel uncomfortable at first, and can even become painful if you rush things or if the sensitive area is not lubricated correctly. Make sure to communicate with your partner before, during and after to know what feels good and what doesn’t. Pay attention to non-verbal cues too, such as facial expressions and moaning (or lack thereof!)

Enjoy yourself!

Many heterosexual men might feel uncomfortable at first using anal toys on themselves, and this is totally normal. Our culture has long-associated male anal play with being gay or being emasculating, but it’s 2021, people! Firstly, gay is no longer a pejorative and secondly, everyone has a butt! – so why can’t we all enjoy what it has to offer us? If you truly want to try anal stimulation but the lingering stigma is the one thing putting you off, put your worries to the side! The joy of pleasure is universal, and you certainly don’t want to miss out on the joys of prostate simulation.

Prepare beforehand

As we’re dealing with backdoor stuff, you’re going to want to make sure to prepare your anus accordingly before using your toys. Cleaning your anus in the shower with some warm soap and water should do the trick, and don’t forget to also empty your bowels before any anal adventure. You can use a douche if you want to, but it’s not always necessary.

Best anal sex toys for solo use

If you’re curious about anal play and you want to indulge your curiosity with a bit of anal stimulation, there are a number of anal sex toys designed for that very purpose:

Vibrating butt plug

The same principle as a butt plug but upgraded for solo play, a vibrating butt plug can give you intense, blended pleasure when combined with regular masturbation. Butt plugs are usually equipped with tapered ends, making them great anal stimulators for hitting the prostate (or P-spot!)

Suction cup dildo
If you love penetration, why not try out a suction cup dildo for some anal play. Suction cup dildos are great for solo use, as you can simply pop them on hard surfaces and ride away as if you were riding the real thing!

Anal fleshlight

If you have a penis and love using a vaginal fleshlight for masturbation, there are plenty of anal fleshlights on the market to enhance your me-time in the same way. Just like with regular fleshlights, you can choose from various models, sizes, and shapes to customize the experience according to your desires.

Anal beads

Anal beads are typically slender, beaded sex toys used to stimulate the sensitive nerve endings in the anus with their irregular texture. Anal beads are great for solo masturbation: if you withdraw the beads when you’re just about to orgasm, the bumpy texture will enhance your orgasm and make it last longer! The key with anal beads is the timing, so it makes for a great anal stimulator for solo play.

How to use anal sex toys solo 

Go hands-free

Whether you’re using a butt plug or riding a suction-cup dildo, a major plus when it comes to anal sex toys is the possibility to go hands-free: you can even boost your pleasure with other toys (such as clitoral vibrators or nipple clamps) to really intensify your orgasm.

Try an anal starter kit

If you’re not sure what kind of anal stimulators you’re going to enjoy, you can try a bit of everything with an anal starter kit! Most kits will come equipped with a beginner-sized butt plug (or several butt plugs of differing sizes) as well as mini anal beads and a mini probe. Experiment with each and see where the fun takes you.

Prepare beforehand

As we’re dealing with backdoor stuff, you’re going to want to make sure to prepare your anus accordingly before using your toys. Cleaning your anus in the shower with some warm soap and water should do the trick, and don’t forget to also empty your bowels before any anal adventure. You can use a douche if you want to, but it’s not always necessary.

Verdict?

Whether you’re going solo or incorporating a toy into couple’s play, introducing anal sex toys into the bedroom will be sure to enhance your sex life and overall pleasure. Don’t forget to communicate with your partner when using a couple’s toy, and don’t forget the important three Ls: lube, listening and (tender) loving aftercare. Make sure to clean each toy thoroughly after each and every anal adventure!