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My mother will tell me she had me by mistake whenever she wanted to hurt me- Yvonne Nelson



Ghanaian actress, Yvonne Nelson has shared some of the painful things her mother, Madam Margaret has said to her growing up.

Yvonne, the third child of Madam Margaret who has still not shared with her who her father is, has not been the best of mom, at least, according to these painful memories shared by Yvonne in her memoir, “I am not Yvonne Nelson.”

According to Yvonne Nelson, there were times when her mom would blatantly tell her she was conceived by “mistake.”


“When my mother was angry with me and really wanted to hurt me, she would tell me she had given birth to me by mistake. Whenever she said it, she knew how I felt. She knew she was driving a sharp nail into my heart. I could feel she really wanted to hurt me. Maybe, she was just being truthful. By so doing, however, she wounded my spirit, and that unhealable wound served as a constant reminder that all was not well with me,” she writes.

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Yvonne says listening to her own mother say such things to her made “me feel terrible about my existence.”

She continues; “I cannot imagine ever getting angry with my daughter and telling her that. And I do not think any child, for whatever reason, deserves such psychological torture. But those words and the story that gave credence to their power constantly reminded me that I was neither wanted nor appreciated.”


The award-winning actress and producer also shares that her mother wanted to abort her when she first found out she was pregnant with her, however, the doctor who was to terminate the pregnancy, changed his mind just.

“My mother told me that when she got pregnant, she did not want to have me so she went to see a medical doctor to terminate the pregnancy. (My mother has told me that the doctor who saved my life is still alive, but she has not told me who he is or which hospital he worked in.) She took that decision in her sixth month. The doctor agreed, and on the said day, she paid the fees and all was set for the abortion. She lay on the surgical bed, raised her legs, but just when the doctor was about to begin the procedure, he shook his head.
“I can’t do this,” the doctor told her. “If you really want to do it, go somewhere else. I’m sorry I can’t do it,” she narrates.

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“Gripped by fear and the shock of the doctor’s sudden change of mind, she abandoned the idea. But she did not forget how I survived. And she made sure to remind me whenever she felt the need to. It is true that she conceived me by mistake. The details of that story are still too sketchy to be woven into something meaningful. But what is obvious is the fact that I could have ended up as a piece of medical waste if she had made up her mind early enough on whether she wanted to keep me or get rid of me,” she adds.

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