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Tems Tells Apple Music About Truth, Overcoming Fear, Writing From a True Place and More

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On episode two of Leading Vibe Radio, Tems, Tunji and Muyiwa explore ‘The Other Side’ of humanity as they talk self-awareness, fear, celebrity, therapy and empathy. The Nigerian artist shares her motivations for making music, more stories from her childhood and advice for creatives on remaining honest and authentic with their work.

Key quotes from the episode and image below. If you’re able to use, please credit to Leading Vibe Radio with Tems on Apple Music 1.

Listen to the episode in-full anytime on-demand with an Apple Music subscription at apple.co/_LeadingVibe

Tems On The Theme Of This Week’s Episode – ‘The Other Side’

Everybody has anxieties. Everybody has issues. Why are we here? To share them. So that other people can maybe find something that would help them by just knowing that they’re not alone and that it can be overcome. And that there is a better life. And amongst all this misery, amongst all this chaos, there can be joy that can be found actually in life, just by you sharing your truth. And that’s why it’s important for you to share it. Not think about what you think people want to hear, but what is actually real because somebody needs that real and the real cannot be replaced, there’s only one truth. That’s the most precious thing you can ever do, is to be completely honest. Not for you. I mean for you, but also for, most importantly, for others, for the next generation, for other people to make life better. That’s what the other side is about. Things are never as they seem and… I feel like a lot of times people want to be distracted from their own lives. I challenge you to not be distracted from your life. I challenge you to look at yourself in the mirror, look at yourself, think about yourself, find yourself, love yourself, take care of yourself. I challenge you to do that. Don’t idolize anybody’s… You don’t have to think about what you are not doing or what you are afraid of. Face that fear and know that on the other side, there’s something amazing for you.

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Tems On Fear And The Difference Between Being A ‘Doer’ And A ‘Viewer’
I think the difference between a doer and a viewer is fear. I think the only difference between me and somebody that can also sing, that nobody knows right now, that has never released any kind of music at all, is fear.
Just putting yourself out there is fear that separates us, and a lot of people that do view other people really speak and judge based on how they see themselves. And a lot of the things that people say, a lot of the opinions that people have, are really based on a kind of low key jealousy that they’re not really able to put themselves out there. And they find confidence in being invisible. And the challenge is overcoming fear. The first challenge to becoming a doer is overcoming fear.
And then when you are now a doer, I feel like you are watching other people… judge what you are doing, even though they’re not doing anything at all. And the challenge is reminding yourself that their opinion doesn’t matter actually. And if they knew anything about life, they won’t be online speaking, they’ll be doing too.

Tems On Focus, Taking Time Between Releasing Music And How People React To That
People imagine themselves to be in your position, but don’t actually understand the actual work that goes into it. So everything that they say is based off of their imagination. One thing that a lot of people never notice until now is that the first half of every single year, since I ever released music is my time to work on myself, work on my music, do everything I need to do. And in that time it seems like, “Oh my God, what’s going on?” Nothing is going on. And people start talking because everybody is scared. It looks like they have something important to say, or they have something reasonable to say, but really it’s fear.
And they’re scared for me in quotes, but if you go to the roots of that, it’s really because they’re afraid of doing what they really want to do. And they feel like, “Oh, how can this person just be chilling? What is she doing?” But you actually don’t know what I do on a daily basis. You actually don’t know how my life actually is in real life; you can’t even fathom it. And if you were me, do you know whether you’d be alive? Do you know whether you wouldn’t have done something by now? Do you know whether you would’ve handled it better than me? Because you don’t know what I’ve seen or what I’ve gone through. And a lot of this is really self-projection. Just projecting your own fears.

Tems On Overcoming Fear
Everybody has their personal… what they feel fear, what the result of fear is in their lives and how they see something. Or how they react to something that they’re afraid of. And I believe it’s really looking at yourself and asking yourself if this is something to be afraid of.

It really is just about looking at what it is and being honest with yourself. And a lot of times, what we think are afraid of is really not what it seems like on the surface. A lot of times there’s a root to that fear. There’s a, “oh, I’m afraid of getting fat. Am I afraid of getting fat? Or am I just afraid of not looking…” Or “do I just not believe in myself? Do I just not think I’m good enough?” Or “do I not just think that I will ever be good enough?” There’s always a deeper question. And then when you find that deeper question, you start to see yourself a bit more clearly. You start to see things a bit more clearly.

Tems On Whether She Thinks About How People Will Receive Her Music
Honestly, I don’t. Maybe on the day that we’re releasing it, the day of, I’ll start looking for everything. Every reason why this song, this project should not be out. I’ll start thinking, oh my gosh, what have I done? I’ll start having last minute anxiety. And when I know I can’t do anything about it, it’s already something that is gone. Even if I said, oh, let’s not do it, I can’t actually stop it, but I just always decide all the time to have that last minute bout of drama. I just have some drama going on just before the 12 midnight, I’ll start acting dramatic. Just because it is my, “oh, it’s finally out” way of celebrating. It’s a ritual.

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Apart from that, I really don’t. Do you think Picasso ever thought, “Hmm, I wonder if the way people think right now will stop them from understanding this art. Maybe I should draw something that people can receive well.” I don’t. I mean, imagine if he did that, and we probably would not know his name, which real artist thinks about how people would receive something? Even if you took the formula, the reason why everybody should like something, you still find people that absolutely hate it and absolutely cannot digest it and absolutely dislike it. Even if I decided I’m going to do a project that’s hits only. According to what I think people think is a hit, I would do a project that’s hits only. Hits only. Hits only. It sounds mad. It sounds like a great idea. But when it comes out, there’ll be something that doesn’t quite gel. And it’s not just because I have become a slave to people’s opinions. It’s also that there’s nobody in this life that everybody likes. There’s nobody. Art is an extension of you. Everybody cannot like your art because everybody cannot understand you. Everybody cannot receive what you’re trying to send. And what you’re really just trying to send is the truth from your eyes. How you see life, everybody can’t see how life, the way you see life. So why worry about whether they’ll see it from your perspective. If you don’t, you don’t, I’ll be fine either way. I’m still alive.

Tems On Whether She Actively Tries To Make Songs That Will Empower Her Listeners
No. I don’t think that because you don’t think. Art is not something that is created out of thinking, it’s created out of doing. You just open your mouth and sing. When I freestyle, when I make things, when I made “Replay,” I literally just opened my mouth and I just started singing. I didn’t think about, “Oh, this is empowering.” Even when I made “Free Mind,” I was dealing with a lot in my mind. And me, I was just releasing. I was just like, oh God. I was just feeling it deeply. I wasn’t thinking about anything. It’s not a thought process. You don’t think about breathing.

I would never regret anything I released because I know that came from my soul and that’s what is important. Every single song came from a true place. So the only way I can ever regret is if I do think, “Hmm, what would people like?” And then I release it and realize, that’s not me at all. Why did I do this? I don’t even believe the things I’m saying, why did I do this? And then I’m unhappy, while everybody’s happy. And everybody is feeling great with that song. And there’ll still be haters on that song too. But if that song now went up, now I know that I hate that song with my life. Every time I perform it, I know it’s not me. And then I’ve trapped myself into a marriage with this song that I know I don’t really believe in. So who loses, who wins? Because the people that are listening to it, is it a win for them? Do they actually get anything tangible from that thing that isn’t true, from that song that isn’t your real life? So what was the point?

Some people’s way of creating is thinking about the masses. That’s perfectly fine. But for me and for any real artist, if you want to be happy, because you can have all the money in the world, you can have all the hits in the world and you’ll be miserable and you’ll be trapped because you now start feeling like you can’t express the real you after making so many hits. Then you can’t, you’re afraid to show people who you actually are. Because you feel they won’t accept you. And then you trap yourself in your mind and you live your life continuously miserable.

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Izwe Savings and Loans Launches its Refreshed Brand to Better Serve Customers and Drive Growth

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Izwe Savings and Loans, a leading financial service provider in Ghana, has unveiled its refreshed brand, marking a significant step towards enhancing customer service and fostering sustained growth.

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Flame Condoms Celebrates four couples in its ‘Sparks of  Love’ Campaign 

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Flame Condoms, a product of Marie Stopes International treated four couples to an all-expense paid romantic date treat at Laboma beach.

 

Their social media campaign themed ‘Sparks of Love’ was engineered to celebrate four couples and give their love the spark it deserves this Valentine’s Day.

The four couples were picked up from their locations and chauffeured to Laboma Beach.

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They were met with a candlelit set up, with roses shaped like a heart to create a serene yet romantic ambiance to set the mood. Ami Shikah, the host for the night greeted them with warmth and excitement to ease them into the activities of the night.

The couples were treated to a beachside dinner, as they enjoyed a sumptuous spread of gourmet delights. Against the backdrop of gently crashing waves and the rustle of palm trees, they savored every moment, relishing both the food and the company of their beloved.

Following the dinner, the couples were whisked away for a series of romantic activities carefully curated by Flame Condoms. They engaged in intimate conversations with Ami Shika the sex therapist to deepen their bond and ignite their flames of passion.

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It was an opportunity to create new memories among the couples. Regardless of their backgrounds or stories, all four couples found themselves swept away by the shared moments of love.

As the night ended, the couples gathered around a crackling bonfire, and exchanged heartfelt conversations, dreams, and promises for the future. The highlight of the evening was a tender proposal made by one of the couples, adding an extra touch of romance to the atmosphere.

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Flame Condoms’ initiative to treat four couples to a night of romance at Laboma Beach served as a reminder of the importance of love, intimacy, and connection in our lives. Against the stunning backdrop of nature’s beauty, these couples were given the gift of cherished moments and unforgettable experiences, all made possible by the commitment of Flame Condoms to promote healthy relationships and enhance pleasure.

Flame Condoms, a Marie Stopes International brand is dedicated to ensuring that Ghanaians have safe but pleasurable sex. Flame condoms come in two variants: Flame Xtacy and Flame Xtra, all featuring dotted or ribbed textures with a delay gel, and available in vanilla or strawberry flavors.

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RightCard (LemFi) doubles down on Bank of Ghana Approval with Nsano partnership.

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RightCard Payment Services Limited trading as LemFi is delighted to announce that it has obtained additional approval from by the Bank of Ghana (BoG) to partner with Nsano Limited to deliver money transfer services to Mobile Money Wallets and Bank Account Beneficiaries in Ghana.

This move continues RightCard’s dedication to complying with the Bank of Ghana’s regulatory framework as well as reinforcing service efficiency through affiliation with proven partners. In February 2023, RightCard “LemFi” formally resumed offering its services to Ghana following a temporary suspension.

RightCard delivers innovative services and products in various markets, through the LemFi app. RightCard is licenced as an Electronic Money Institution with the Financial Conduct Authority in the United Kingdom.

LemFi customers can rest assured of continuous delivery of quality service; instant money transfer, competitive exchange rate and zero transaction fee offerings. Prospective customers can take advantage, by downloading the app from the iOS, Google Play Store or on the website at www.lemfi.com.

If you require additional information and updates, please visit our website at www.lemfi.com or write to us at “legal@lemfi.com”
Stay connected with us on this exciting journey by following the latest news and developments on our social media channels:

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COTTON FEST SET FOR JOHANNESBURG RETURN INAPRIL 2024

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Get ready for an extraordinary experience as Cotton Festival returns, for the 5th edition in Johannesburg, to its home at the Old Station in Newtown on April 6th, 2024. 

This year’s theme, #VoteCottonFest, goes beyond a festival; it’s a dynamic lifestyle movement whereattendees actively shape the culture through music, art, sport and lifestyle choices, celebrating theconvergence of individuality. 

Cast your votes for the new wave in youth culture, embracing diversity and inclusivity in every aspect of the festival. Engage in interactive elements and unique experiences that reflect the vibrant spirit of this years theme #VoteCottonFest. 

Cotton Festival is a testament to Bianca Naidoo’s commitment to continue the legacy createdbythelate Riky Rick. Together, they championed collaboration across music, fashion, lifestyle, and sports culture. 

We’re thrilled to announce our festival partners who share in our vision: NikNaks, Coke Studios, Vuse, Hunters, Klipdrift, Count Pushkin, 4th Street Wine, NBA, Jägermeister, Youth X by Nedbankand Red Bull. 

In collaboration with dynamic media broadcast partners like YFM and MTV Base, Cotton Festival’s reach extends far and wide, resonating with youth audiences throughout the country. 

Featuring the hottest South Africa talent, artists will perform across 3 stages. 

Save the date, embrace the theme, and join us on April 6th, 2024, in this celebration of individuality, expression and empowerment of young creatives! #CottonfestJHB #VoteCottonfest2024 #VoteCottonFest 

Tickets for this immersive lifestyle experience are ON SALE NOW at Pick n Pay and Webtickets –secure yours here. 

• R200 Early Bird Tickets – limited tickets available 

• R300 General Admission – limited tickets available 

Stay tuned for more information. 

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For media accreditation opening next month and all media inquiries, please contact Sade Simons at sade@sspublicrelations.com,publicist@sspublicrelations.com or +27 79 961 1924. 

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Cotton Festival, created by the late Riky Rick, is more than a festival, it’s a movement! Burstingonto the scene in 2019, the festival champions collaboration across music, fashion, lifestyle, andsports culture. Committed to inclusivity and safety, Cotton Fest is a celebration of the newwaveinyouth culture. 

Follow #VoteCottonFest2024 

Website – https://cottonfest.co.za/ 

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Custom Wedding dress: Everything You Should Know

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For brides who are searching for a particular gown but are unable to locate it anyplace, a custom gown can be the perfect fit. If so, please continue reading about the process of creating and designing below. Furthermore, it is recommended to start making your own custom gown at least nine to twelve months prior to your big day

Perhaps the perfect option for you is a custom bridal gown.If you have a unique body shape and can’t find the right design anyplace, or if you want to incorporate a beloved piece of clothing (like your grandmother’s antique lace handkerchief), making your own wedding dress is a terrific option.

How Are Customised Wedding Dresses Made?

These dresses are mainly constructed from either taffeta, satin or silk. However, some women prefer making their own dresses using personal materials that they have emotional attachments to. Additionally, if you want your wedding dress to be environmentally friendly, both hemp and bamboo are good choices.

You can buy these materials online or go to the nearest store that sells fabrics to get the best fabrics and designs at reasonable prices. On the other hand, you may put on an ancient crafty piece of attire along with your selected wedding dress.

However, before getting down to work, it is worth noting that you should first pick up a fabric that one will find more close resembling his taste. After this task, you will need a body measurement and create a mockup dress in order to ascertain its perfect fit. To accomplish this stage, you can either buy dressmaking software or use sewing machine as well as needles and thread hands when making a sample for service delivery.

Once everything is finalized and you’ve chosen the perfect design for your aesthetic, you may have a talented tailor make for your dress.

A Few Things to Look for in a Tailor 

Finding a tailor with experience in creating custom wedding dresses can be crucial. Even better, consider seeking a tailor who has altered bridal gowns for past brides, as they will have an understanding of the adjustments required.

Additionally, consider where the tailor is situated, and his or her fee. However, in most cases you get what you pay for: it’s just that some very good sewers charge very reasonable prices. By typing ‘wedding dress sewing services’ into Google you can acquire an array of reputable local tailors. You may also ask your friends and family members about the best seamstress within your area.

Options for Customizing Wedding Dresses


You can customise a wide variety of wedding gown styles to match your specific proportions. The most popular wedding dress categories are:

    • Ball Gowns: Full-skirted ball gowns are ideal for brides who have an hourglass form. Given that they frequently include a high waist, these dresses can be the easiest to personalize.
    • Sheath or Shift Dress: Brides with long, slim figures look stunning in sheath or shift dresses. These dresses are fairly basic, frequently featuring a fitted bodice and a voluminous skirt.
    • Column or Mermaid Dress: These dresses have a full skirt and are fitted at the waist, much like ball gowns. For brides who have an hourglass body, they are ideal. 
  • A-line Dress: Brides with apple or pear-shaped bodies look stunning in a-line gowns. 

Benefits of customize Your Clothes

Choosing to create your wedding dress has a number of perks.. First of all, you don’t have to follow trends in order to create the exact style and appearance you want. Even more environmentally friendly materials can be used to make your bridal gown, or it might incorporate sentimental clothing pieces. You may also alter your wedding gown as many times as needed to get the perfect fit.

You will be ready to wear your custom wedding dress several times, which is not possible with a custom-made or designer dress. You can wear your wedding gown to formal events such as anniversaries and weddings.

Conclusion

One possibility that can be uniquely yours on this big day is making your own wedding gown which no one else will own ever again. Furthermore, if you are not able to find a ready-made dress that fits perfectly because of having a different body shape, then designing custom wedding dresses could be an ideal solution.

 

When making the decision to sew your own bridal gown, it is advised that you research on the fabrics, stitching techniques and quantities as soon as possible. You are also supposed to start thinking about this at least one year before in order that there remains enough time to complete the dress with adjustments if any would be required..



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